People can be goofballs at heart and sometimes, the most awkward people ever. Stick them in a situation they’ve never been in before and they will burn in a blaze of glory. But these guys are awesome because, they are the most genuine.

 

You may be able to fake shyness (not sure why you’d want to), but you can’t fake awkwardness.

I am talking about being that kid in high school, carrying a girl’s books down the hall, tripping over yourself, books flying everywhere, and blushing as you look up at her embarrassingly from the ground. Yeah, that kind of awkward.

Did you also know that women love that kind of guy? It’s pretty simple why. These goofs are REAL. There is a sense of vulnerability that the awkward goof has that women do find attractive.

The perfect example: actor Ashton Kutcher. He is the definition of the shy goof.

So here’s my 3-step plan for how a shy guy can talk to an attractive woman:

Context

Look at the environment and the situation you’re about to put yourself into. Is she with friends? Is there a theme party going on? Did she drop her jacket? Did she spill her drink? Is there a big game on the TV? Is there anything notable that she’s wearing?

Whatever it is, knowing what’s going on around you will allow you to be relevant in her surroundings and eventually in conversation with her, making her more receptive to whatever you have to say, which we’ll get into.

Confidence

The most effective way to experience the emotion of confidence is by triggering your body to act accordingly. Smile (a MUST), hold eye contact (even if it feels a little uncomfortable), stand up straight, and keep your head up are some examples of what you can physically do to project confidence to women.

These simple adjustments will ensure when you approach a woman, your body language screams “I’m a confident guy.” It may feel weird at first. You may find yourself not feeling “equal” to what you were initially projecting, causing some women to catch on and leave conversation. Over time, the more you do it, you’ll feel more comfortable, consistent, and most importantly, natural.

Content

This what 99% of men worry about and it accounts for less than 5% of success. If you can enhance your awareness of what’s going on around you and adjust your body language, you can say almost anything to women.

 

What’s important to understand is women rarely remember the first thing you say to them — and that’s a good thing.

So while you’re worrying about what to say first, she’s already forgotten about it. If you want to be a guy that stands out, remember this: It’s not by having something amazing to say.
And if you’re worried about being or feeling “awkward,” consider this.

Everyone has quirks and idiosyncrasies that that make them self-consciousness, leading to certain awkward situations. As someone who has gone through that “awkwardness” in high school and through most of college, the key to becoming less awkward is by accepting and becoming comfortable with awkwardness.

It starts with accepting who you are then becoming comfortable in as many social scenarios as possible until “awkwardness” is virtually non-existent.

So, if your sticking point is the fact that you don’t think you’ll be liked, know that it’s not true. Like many things in life, it’s all about mindset. There are plenty of women waiting for you to fall in front of them (often, literally).